Why Sometimes It Isn't Such A Great Idea © Sarah Masson 2011
It may seem like a fantastic idea at the start because you’ve already known each other for years and you’re sooo comfortable together and nothing could be better, am I right? I’ve been in this exact position and yes it seems as if it was meant to be at the start. It’s all giggles and butterflies until things start falling apart and you call it off. This is when things get tricky and let me tell you because I know from experience. You are both from the same close group and when this happens you find yourself alone. People seem to take sides and all of that sort of nonsense. Can anyone say awkward? Yeah you got that right, awkward is actually a huge understatement. It’s a horrible feeling and sometimes it makes you want to just hide away from everything. You live in the same area so you still see all your ex and it just makes everything really hard.
So before you jump into a relationship with one of your best friends maybe you should reconsider. I know you might be thinking, that would never happen to me, really, we are just friends. Well I used to say exactly the same thing. It happens before you know it. I’m definitely not suggesting that friends haven’t stayed together before. I’ve heard of all the stories of bestfriends who have been married for forty years and if that’s like what happened to you, then congratulations. Some people are meant to be together and some are not. I’m just being realistic about the whole breakup part. If you know it’s never going to work there’s no reason to stay with someone. It’s not going to be any easier if you leave it until the last minute. The longer you keep it going on for, the harder things get. You know in your own mind whether it’s right to be with someone or not and even if it’s wrong but you still want to stay with them, you still know what the right thing to do is.
Pros for being in a relationship with a close friend:
1. You are already extremely comfortable together so it makes things a lot easier
2. You already know his/her friends because there yours too so they have to like you
3. You also know his/her family because you’ve met them a million times
4. You are probably interested in the same sort of things
5. It’s easy, you already know him/her so there’s none of the initial hard work/stress
Cons for being in a relationship with a close friend (or ending one):
1. Your friends might feel a bit stange about you being a couple
2. If you break up then they will definitely feel strange
3. If there’s a lot of he saids and she saids, they will get back to whoever they’re about
4. No matter how easy it is to say “If we ever broke up we can still be friends” It’s not that simple
5. You could ultimitely lose some friendships (as did I)
6. Just because you are not together anymore doesn’t mean you are not going to see them around and at friends birthdays etc.
7. You’ll still know about everything that they are up to so there’s no such thing as out of sight out of mind in this situation
Well I could keep going but I think we’re getting the drift. Unless you are one hundred percent sure that they are the one for you then I would suggest probably staying away from friends. If it ends, it rarely ends nicely. I know I sure won’t be with a friend of mine again, I learnt that the hard way but it’s a lesson that I’m glad I experienced because I did learn from it. Good luck to you all on finding your love, whether it be your best friend or someone completely new.
So before you jump into a relationship with one of your best friends maybe you should reconsider. I know you might be thinking, that would never happen to me, really, we are just friends. Well I used to say exactly the same thing. It happens before you know it. I’m definitely not suggesting that friends haven’t stayed together before. I’ve heard of all the stories of bestfriends who have been married for forty years and if that’s like what happened to you, then congratulations. Some people are meant to be together and some are not. I’m just being realistic about the whole breakup part. If you know it’s never going to work there’s no reason to stay with someone. It’s not going to be any easier if you leave it until the last minute. The longer you keep it going on for, the harder things get. You know in your own mind whether it’s right to be with someone or not and even if it’s wrong but you still want to stay with them, you still know what the right thing to do is.
Pros for being in a relationship with a close friend:
1. You are already extremely comfortable together so it makes things a lot easier
2. You already know his/her friends because there yours too so they have to like you
3. You also know his/her family because you’ve met them a million times
4. You are probably interested in the same sort of things
5. It’s easy, you already know him/her so there’s none of the initial hard work/stress
Cons for being in a relationship with a close friend (or ending one):
1. Your friends might feel a bit stange about you being a couple
2. If you break up then they will definitely feel strange
3. If there’s a lot of he saids and she saids, they will get back to whoever they’re about
4. No matter how easy it is to say “If we ever broke up we can still be friends” It’s not that simple
5. You could ultimitely lose some friendships (as did I)
6. Just because you are not together anymore doesn’t mean you are not going to see them around and at friends birthdays etc.
7. You’ll still know about everything that they are up to so there’s no such thing as out of sight out of mind in this situation
Well I could keep going but I think we’re getting the drift. Unless you are one hundred percent sure that they are the one for you then I would suggest probably staying away from friends. If it ends, it rarely ends nicely. I know I sure won’t be with a friend of mine again, I learnt that the hard way but it’s a lesson that I’m glad I experienced because I did learn from it. Good luck to you all on finding your love, whether it be your best friend or someone completely new.
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